Stage 6 — Understanding It Was Not Your Fault

Not Guilty Team

A central theme is helping survivors understand that the abuse was never their fault. This is why our organization is called Not Guilty, because it is never the victim's fault.

Children often blame themselves for abuse.

Even as adults, survivors may continue carrying feelings of guilt and shame.

Some survivors believe they should have stopped the abuse.

Others feel confused because they may have experienced physical pleasure during the abuse.

But the responsibility for abuse always lies with the abuser.

Overcoming shame often involves:

• talking openly about the abuse

• connecting with other survivors

• practicing self-compassion

• nurturing the child within

Recognizing that the abuse was not your fault can be deeply freeing.